think for yourself
Do you find yourself seeking the approval of others? Do you jump on bandwagon after bandwagon trying to “fit in”? Does your life feel out of control and your stress level through the roof?  Then maybe it’s time for a change.  The change in question is not looking for another bandwagon to jump on, falling into another dysfunctional relationship, or relying on junk food, cigarettes, drugs or alcohol to get you through the day.  It’s time to think for yourself.

“The un-examined life is not worth living.”  Socrates
When you accept everything you’re told without question, you open the door to being manipulated. The un-examined life is likely to come with a lot of regrets later on. Who are you? Where do you want to go? What things do you want to experience or achieve from this life before you kick the bucket? If you can’t answer these questions, or if you answer with other people’s ideas or influences in mind. Then you are still on that bandwagon. After all, NO ONE can answer these questions but you. So they have to come from within, through self reflection.
“It is wrong in all cases to believe on insufficient evidence; and where it is presumption to doubt and to investigate, there it is worse than presumption to believe.” W.K. Clifford
In other words, question, question and question before believing.  Question not only what you see and hear, but also question your own assumptions. It takes courage to face uncertainty and a fulfilling life requires you to be a detective.  This doesn’t mean that you should go to the extreme and believe nothing.  This extreme can leave you in the same boat:  not taking constructive actions to move your life forward.  As Aristotle said “Don’t go to extremes; you’re likely to act wrongly.”
People do not fall into tidy categories of leader or follower, it depends on the situation and the mindset of the other people involved as well. But life isn't about leading or following other people. Life is about leading yourself.  Ask questions.  Self reflect and get to know yourself. It’s only then that you can understand the difference between “existing” to conform and “living” to seek truth.
About the Author:
Daughter of a 2-9 British Army Commando and Combatives Instructor, Kelina Cowell grew up on a military base in Dortmund, Germany. Inspired by training with her father from an early age, she continued her combative journey into Krav Maga, Submission Wrestling, Filipino Martial Arts, Pencak Silat and Muay Thai. She searches for the truth in personal protection, simply keeping what can really work on the street and the discarding the “Hollywood” techniques that don’t.
Kelina Cowell is the Founder and Chief Instructor of Apolaki Combat Systems:
  • Apolaki Krav Maga – a unique blend of traditional Krav Maga, with elements of Filipino martial arts, Pencak Silat, Muay Thai and Submission Wrestling. Complete with it’s own 5 Level syllabus and gradings.
  • Apolaki Dirty Boxing – A more in-depth training into Filipino boxing, Western Boxing, Muay Thai and Pencak Silat. Complete with it’s own 5 Level syllabus and gradings.
  • Apolaki SPD: Self Protection for Dwarfs – Co-founded with her student Eugene Grant who was born with Achondroplasia (a form of short-limbed dwarfism). An adapted form of Apolaki Krav Maga suitable for dwarf body types.